Blue Sparkly Places

I love synchronicity. It seems whenever I’m truly frustrated and questioning an answer will come from what seems to be out of the blue. You know that wild blue yonder, that magical place, otherwise known as the universe. Or is it? Is it really a tiny blue sparkly place somewhere near the heart that remains for the most part unsparkly, and then in time of need—when we remember to get still and seek answers—it directs us?


Frustrated with promotion and marketing for my books, I found technology was giving me a giant headache as I navigated my way around building author pages and learning the rules of internet sites and social media haunts. My inner bratty child threw tantrums, saying stuff like, “You’re too old to be attempting to learn this,” “You were left behind the door when they handed out computer skills,” “You are not smart,” and so on. I finally put the kid in her room on a time out.

Then, like the control freak I can be, I researched. I knew I was making myself nuts, spreading myself too thin, afraid I’d forget to do one important thing, or somehow miss the boat and my poor books would flounder on the waves until they were so soaked they’d sink like rocks to the bottom of the sea. That night I went to bed and unable to sleep I reached for one of my favorite Deepak Chopra books.

(I always have a couple on my nightstand.) Before I opened Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul  I got quiet and still. I asked for some words of guidance. Then I opened the book at a random page. Here is what it said:

Don’t interfere with the flow.                      

River Spey

River Spey


To paraphrase: there is a giant river that flows through all reality and once you have found your true self, there is no more cause for action. The river picks you up and moves you forward. All of that busy work, all of that worry, becomes pointless. No one gives you the job of steering the river so all you have to do is relax, enjoy the ride, and appreciate the scenery. 


At the end of the next paragraph was this sentence:

It’s the universe’s task to unfold reality; yours is only to plant the seed.

I understood the essence of Chopra’s words, but I also knew that to do nothing at all and rely on fate or luck would not be wise. The writer me had seen the seeds I’d planted years ago grow into healthy plants, now it was up to the marketing me to fertilize, prune, and tend the crop. New skills were called for. I worked out a plan, and chose to learn three things to assist me with my marketing, and forget the rest. I will not interfere with the flow; I will trust. My harvest may never be huge, but my crops will be cared for with love. My blue sparkly place is very happy. 

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18 Responses to Blue Sparkly Places

  1. Susanne says:

    I admire your approach and your tenacity. You’ll get where you want to be.

    Good luck with all this.

  2. robena grant says:

    Thanks, Susanne. All we can do is our best, and leave the rest. ; )

  3. Thank you for putting into words the constant frustration I feel regarding the marketing side of writing. I love synchronicity, too, and as the saying goes – God works in mysterious ways.

    Another favorite saying of mine is Let go. Let God.

    Potatoes/potahtoes – God/Universe (hey – someone’s got to be in charge, right?) 🙂

  4. robena grant says:

    Hi, Lynne. Yep, someone has to be in charge and I think most of our frustration comes from when we think that someone is us. ; )

  5. A very insightful way of looking at things and controlling the anxiety/craziness that can surround the marketing aspects of what we do! I felt better just reading the post LOL.

  6. Robena – This is really beautiful. I tend to not pay much attention to this kind of stuff since I recognized the atheist that I am. But this just makes logical sense.
    You know one thing I love about Chopra, and, as a matter of fact Thich Nhat Hanh and Carl Sagan – their voices. Their deep, calm, soothing voices.

    • robena grant says:

      Yes, I too love their voices. I often listen to Deepak with his heavy accent and I find something so comforting about him. I often wonder what it would have been like to grow up in his household.

  7. J.L. Hammer says:

    Robena, I really needed to read this today. Thank you for helping me take in a calming breath and place things back in perspective.

  8. The marketing aspects are daunting and like you I decided to do what I could when I can, and not stress about spreading myself even further. I do get guilty when I have to abandon one loop, or writers group to favour another-but I know I’ll go back as often as I can. I’ve only been really seriously writing, and been published now since Aug 2011 and have thrown myself into the deep end of learning new marketing skills. But I’m still trying to find a balance where my new WIP writing doesn’t suffer!

    • robena grant says:

      I think that’s the key, Nancy. Balance. When we spread ourselves too thin we’re not making any impact and our voice is never heard. And doing the quick fly-by-night promo hits sound exactly like that…spam! Three well chosen things that we really enjoy doing, that we put our real selves into, will be more beneficial. I have friends who adore Goodreads, others who enjoy Twitter, me…I love blogging and FB. : )

  9. Liz Flaherty says:

    This is great. I don’t think I could DO it, but I like it a lot!

    • robena grant says:

      Thanks for coming by, Liz. Yes it’s hard not to get caught up in all of the hoopla, but seriously, I have a friend who does NONE of what I do and she sells really well. I can’t quite go her route, but my goal is to do my three things with enthusiasm and see how that works. ; )

  10. Sam Beck says:

    Oh, boy, Robena…every once in awhile a message comes just in time. Your blog post was that message for me. I have been making myself craaazeee stressing about how to set up a Goodreads Author Page, an Amazon Author Page, pump out a few zillion blog posts, FB posts, Twitter shots, organize a street team, and…oh yeah…write the next actual story, which is due to my editor in a month.

    If a Golden Heart finalist, double-debut-published writer says “do three things with enthusiasm and let the rest go,” then I know what I should do. Thanks, RG. I will sleep better tonight.

  11. robena grant says:

    Well, geez, when you put it that way Sam it really sounds like I know what I’m talking about. Ha ha. I’ve been listening in and sometimes responding to discussions on kindleboards, and it seems nobody, even the most successful authors, knows what really works. I’m not good at Twitter, so I pop over there once a day but I really don’t connect. It’s like talking into a void. FB I understand, blogging I understand, and forums, but Goodreads and Twitter leave me befuddled. ; )

  12. Julie says:

    Perfect! I love this post.

    I’m not writing to be published, but as you know, I am trying so hard to get my name out there for the business that I do have.

    This applies to any sort of work. You nailed it. (As I knew you would.)