Driving home the other day, I sat behind a sport utility vehicle at a traffic light. It had a sign in the back window: Wag more, bark less. I figured we humans could take a lesson from that. And then I thought, ah, a New Year’s plan.
It made me smile. I’d been missing my furry friend who passed away back in August, but I was not yet ready to care for and love another doggy. However, my smile broadened as I remembered my dog’s welcoming wags of pure joy whenever I’d return home, or the way she would insert herself between the couch and ottoman presenting her back for some gentle massage and fur stroking. Dogs are amazing in how they know what to ask for, and they’re never shy about it either. I admire their confidence. “Hey, I’m here. Love me.”
I’m a few years younger in the photo above, (go on, tell me I haven’t changed a bit, hee hee) and the hair was redder, but that’s okay. Nikki was an Akita. They aren’t known as barkers. Yet, they are loyal and fantastic guard dogs and will howl like a wolf whenever necessary. As far as wagging goes, the Akita has a tail that curls up and almost touches their back. They are the best waggers to have in a house. No swishing sideways movements that can knock things off low lying tables, just a gentle wag.
How might “Wag more, bark less” apply to me as a New Year’s plan? Instead of snapping and being short with people, instead of growling my displeasure, or cursing under my breath, instead of road rage and giving the finger (I never do that) or getting upset over the slightest of slights, what if I smiled and waved?
How often do you wave? How many times a day, or a week, do you raise your hand in greeting and friendship? Interesting thought, huh? Kind of like that saying, “Have you hugged your kid today?” Hugs are huge. But so are waves. Waves cross all boundaries, sexes, cultures, religions, and they are clean and don’t involve any sensitive touching issues. I’m going to incorporate more waves into my life. Here are my seven signature waves:
The flutter wave, which I think will be great for children I don’t know well.
The big sweeping, “Hey old buddy, good to see you,” wave.
The never ending wave as I say farewell after a visit (usually comes with tears.)
The, “Hey wait for me,” wave (always accompanied by a yell.)
The royal wave for special occasions when I’m feeling, well, royal.
The, “get outta’ here,” wave.
The sexy beckoning twitch of the fingers wave, good for when I see the cute guy in the bar. (I’m going to have to practice that one.)
How about you? Do you have a special wave?