It’s All About the Dress…

I thought it was “all about the dress” so why did I go wining and dining and eating at street vendor carts before going shopping for the GH Awards ceremony dress? Because…drum roll please…if I was feeling a bit puffy from the plane ride, plus the yummy food, and I still liked the way the dress looked then it would be a done deal. See there is a method to my madness. : )

Lunch from the vendor outside Macy’s. Anna had some strange sandwich.

I had spinach pie. Yum.          

The Eggs Benedict, with caviar, from Fred, at Barney’s of NY.


I spent five lovely days in NYC, a place I adore and love to visit as often as possible. My mother-in-law is now 100 years old and is still a dynamo. She loves the theater, eating out, and shopping. Visiting her is always a delight and this time it was doubly so because my daughter was there as well. Even if Anna did make me take the subway twice and the stairs played havoc with my knee. And even if she did drag me to Canal street in the heat of mid afternoon to look for bargains, I forgive her.

Coming home was ick. Delays due to electrical storms made me lose the last connector to Palm Springs Airport where my car awaited me. Fortunately another lady travelling alone was standing in line behind me. We got our heads together, got a connector flight to Ontario, California, an hour or so drive north of PS Airport, hired a driver and split the cost, and they dropped me at 1am (six hours later than my scheduled arrival time) where I climbed into my car and then drove another thirty minutes to get home. Fell into bed at 2am, and of course I woke up at my usual time of 6am. But it’s all good. I’m home now and I’m fine, even though the airline didn’t even give me a meal voucher. Maybe the ticketing agent knew about the farewell Chinese food we had for dinner the night before. Those potstickers were pure heaven.

Now, back to the dress, I didn’t want just any gown. Nope. I know my style. Plus I wanted something that would cover an ugly melanoma scar on my upper arm, and yet I didn’t want a jacket. I couldn’t find what I wanted in California, not for a price I was willing to pay. Most everything I tried on was too prom looking, or too old looking. I’d try on a dress, squint into the mirror and think “mutton dressed as lamb,” or, “I look like my grandmother.” Then the gown would be pulled over my head in a flash, amidst much frowning and a few “WTF are the designer’s thinking?” comments, usually spoken out loud. Then another dress would slide into place, and the entire procedure would be repeated again and again. Sheer torture.

So off I went to the city that never sleeps and hoped for success. We hit all of the big stores first: Saks, Macy’s, and Bloomingdales. I was sniffing out the big sales and steering clear of the designer boutiques. I refused to spend a small fortune for a dress I was certain I would wear once. And we all know about walking through those glass boutique doors and feeling some exquisite fabric and trying on the gown “just for fun” and then finding it fits perfectly, the color flatters, and we have to have it, despite the fact that it will blow our wardrobe budget for a whole year.

We went back to Bloomie’s. With the help of an amazing sales assistant I found a Tadashi Shoji dress  that I love and it was 50% off. Now I can’t wait to get the shoes. ; ) Don’t ask why you have to tilt your head to see this dress because I do not know. The important thing is I like it. Oh, and I didn’t have a strapless bra and it was too hot to put on a foundation garment, so if I look lumpy the regular bra strap is tucked into the cup just to give the right effect. Use your imagination. : )

What about you? Are you a shopper? Do you find shopping for special events to be exciting, stress filled, or just a downright chore?

Oh, and do you like my dress?

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34 Responses to It’s All About the Dress…

  1. You look gorgeous, Robena!! Love it, Love it. Can’t wait to see you wearing it at RWA!

    • Robena Grant says:

      Thanks, Charlene. Now I’ve been reminded today by the GH group that I need to write an acceptance speech (for just in case) sigh. Is it bad to hope someone else wins? : )

  2. Janie Emaus says:

    Did you go to NY just to get that lovely dress? BTW, it looks great on you. I’ll be there cheering you on.

  3. Robena Grant says:

    I’m glad you’ll be there, Janie.
    Nope, I really went to see my mother in law who turned 100 a couple of months ago. She’s amazing. : )

  4. Ooh la la! Love it!

    I hate shopping. Your description about mutton on a lamb works for how I feel when I try on dresses, too!

  5. Robena Grant says:

    That expression is one that my Aussie mother uses all the time. And it usually means (at least to us) an old woman (mutton) dresses like a young lamb. I do not want to be remembered that way. Ha ha.

  6. Nan says:

    Roben, you are spectacular! The dress is perfect! For shoes, I’d say something silver and strappy or ivory and strappy or red and strappy…just definitely strappy! Love it!!

    As for shopping–um, not so much. I’m bad at it because I rarely think I look good in anything, so I always end up depressed. Exception–the sundresses I found at Walmart. Otherwise, I’m not a shopper of anything at all, not even fond of going to the grocery store… 😉

    • Robena Grant says:

      Thanks! Yes, I thought silver or pearlized white for the shoes. And yes on strappy! The red is a bit more coral than red, so might be hard to match.

  7. Roz Lee says:

    If one must shop, NYC is the place to do it! LOL Love the dress. It’s perfect for a summer awards ceremony or SoCal just about any time of year. It looks fabulous on you, and it’s going to look even better with the Golden Heart!

  8. Marge says:

    Oh thanks so very much for a good morning chuckle !! Only you can have so much fun shopping for a dress. The dress is beautiful, the sleeve perfect and the color if outstanding. Thanks for cheering up my morning.

  9. Robena Grant says:

    You are welcome, Marge. And remember the other gown? Well this one was half that price. So, yay! : )

  10. Breathtaking! It’s absolutely perfect, Roben! And just think, you can wear it again when you pick up your multiple Rita awards…!!!

  11. It’s gorgeous, Roben! And you look beautiful! I can’t wait to cheer you on! I’m so excited for you. Oh, and I love the method to your shopping madness! Eating *and* shopping? What a great day. 🙂

    • Robena Grant says:

      Yes. If the dress fits after eating, it’s a keeper. : )
      And I didn’t even have a cupcake, but I did have profiterole with coffee icecream. Oh my.

  12. blonde betty / toni says:

    You look beautiful! The dress is perfect. Good luck!

  13. Maria says:

    LOVE the dress. It and you are fabulous. Those are great colors on you. Love, love, love. Good job on finding the perfect dress.

    • Robena Grant says:

      I adore the colors, Maria. Thanks. And you know that black is my go to color for evening wear, right? So this is not me yet it feels right.

  14. That dress is beautiful – you have that mature (*not* old) look of sophistication and beauty, and I love the sleeve arrangement.

    One battle won, woo-hoo!

    • Robena Grant says:

      Thanks, Bev. Yeah my daughter tells me not to be concerned about my scar, but I am. Except down here in the desert when extreme heat wins out and I go sleeveless. : 0

  15. Dee J. says:

    Simply beautiful!! So thrilled for you and can’t wait for the night!

  16. LOVE the dress! Can’t wait to root you on at the GH awards!

  17. I love that dress and it looks beautiful on you. I like your thinking about the condition you are in when you buy it. I hate shopping. I always have. Even when I was a thin, pretty teen-ager.
    I’m so proud of you!

    • Robena Grant says:

      Thanks, Judy. I’m not a big shopper either. It always seems like such a chore and I can spend days searching and buying nothing until I find the right thing, so yeah, very tiring.

  18. Julie says:

    Oh that dress is wonderful! And you look SO good in it. But lol, I love the explanation about the improper undergarment arrangement. Once your “foundation” and shoes are worked out you’ll be red-carpet ready!

    She’s A HUNDRED?! We should all be so blessed to live that long and be so vibrant.

    • Robena Grant says:

      Hi Julie. I’ve been home for three days now and still haven’t tried it on with a proper foundation garment, must do that. Went looking for shoes yesterday but came home with nothing. Will go further afield this weekend. : )

      And yes, my sweet M-I-L is 100 and doing well. I love to have breakfast with her. I read the Times and she reads the Wall Street Journal and then we trade off, and then we discuss whatever is in the news. If I could be doing that at 100, and enjoying my life, I wouldn’t mind getting that old. : )

  19. londonmabel says:

    I don’t like it, I love it! Look at you! It’s PERFECT. Well you’re perfect, and it enhances the perfectatude. 🙂

  20. Robena Grant says:

    Perfectatude!!!! I love that. Does that mean one walks around with an attitude of being perfect…some inner confidence thing? I suppose it could be “what you see is what you get” and being comfortable with that. : )

  21. Gayle says:

    Roben it was worth the trip to New York. You found the perfect dress. Now to find the perfect shoe!!! You look marvelous.

  22. Robena Grant says:

    Hi, Gayle. Thanks. : 0
    It was a good trip on so many levels. I just hate flying these days. I found a perfect pair of dove gray shoes and a bag. And the shoes are comfortable but still cute. I’d gone to several stores and kept fussing, so finally took the dress in to DSW. One of the gals (and a customer) helped me. We tried gold, silver, nude, cream, but finally settled on the gray. Now to figure out the jewelry. ; )